Dec. 2, 2024

Dad's Home Podcast | Season 003 - Episode #301 | "College Recruiting" | NSFW

Dad's Home Podcast | Season 003 - Episode #301 | "College Recruiting" | NSFW

Episode 301 — “College Recruiting”: Where have the Dad's been for the last 2-years? | How did the Dad's deal with their softball girls getting recruited for college? | TO THE TAPE: One definitive reason you DO NOT want to have that affair | PLUS: two...

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Season 3 Dad's Home Pods

Episode 301 — “College Recruiting”: Where have the Dad's been for the last 2-years? | How did the Dad's deal with their softball girls getting recruited for college? | TO THE TAPE: One definitive reason you DO NOT want to have that affair | PLUS: two parents unwittingly become entered into the “2024-2025 Worst Parent Of The Year” bracket...

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It's showtad, folks. But first dad jokes.

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I think I'm just gonna.

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Have one kid though in the bedroom, one because you

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have more than one.

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And then you got a side which when you like better,

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that's always me. Oh it's true, your parents lie about it. Oh,

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we like them all the same. No you don't. You

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love them all of course, But there's always that one kid.

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You know, if he got lost, you'll look for him.

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I'm not right away.

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Wake up, Daddy, shoul.

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That's the sound of familiarity right there. That's the sound

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of home. That's the sound of Dad's home. This is

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the Dad's Home Podcast.

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I bower.

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That is Chad of For those of you who are

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only listening to the podcast right now, you don't see us,

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but we are also a we're recording this on streamyard,

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so you'll see it at YouTube for Dad's Home Podcast.

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Please feel free to check that out. Plus we posted

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at real guy radio dot com. But it sounds so

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good to hear the dad jokes and the music, mister Chad.

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Two long years, two long years since we last did

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a Dad's Home podcast.

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Well, you know, my time in prison was brief, and

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and you know I learned I learned a lot. I

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definitely was rehabilitated, so and you know.

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I believe the letter I received from you behind bars

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also involved the word loving for your time there. I

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believe there was you did. There was some sensitivity what

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you weren't expecting on the sensitivity front for sure.

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Yeah, yeah, and I appreciate you sending me the lifstick.

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That helped a lot.

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You welcome anything that I could do to make that

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stay better for you.

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Yeah, yeah, it was. It was helpful.

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It's been two years since we've done a Dad's Home podcast,

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and things have changed over the past two years. For instance,

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for those of you who are watching this video on YouTube,

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you see the background behind me looks like I'm in

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a Tom Petty video or something. I don't know what

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it is. Maybe are you.

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In a moving van? Yes, we're we're driving across country.

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I am trapped with John Candy getting getting back home.

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It's right.

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It doesn't holler like it right, I mean it's it's

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I got blue and black checkers behind me. Plus I've

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got moving blankets in a green screen, which just feels

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awful the whole way around. But over the past two years,

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I got a studio at my house down in the basement,

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and I'm doing the show from the studio. Last time

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we were doing the show, I was upstairs, shadows on

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the well. This is the basement. That'll be the I'm

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on the second floor upstairs, and now I'm in the

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basement doing the show in a studio down here. So

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that's one of the things that has changed. In the bed.

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You were on a higher planet and uh, yeah, as

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you can see behind me, I moved to the beach.

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You did. You got some waves behind you? Then I do, Yeah,

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I did.

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I've I'm living on the coast now. I was not really, No,

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I still live in the same shithole I did before.

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I just got a background.

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You got water in text it's I get it. You

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got to get to it. It's not right, it's not

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immediate right there, but you've got water in texts. I

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just thought maybe you've got a beach house or something.

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Yeah. I wake up every day to this view. Nice,

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that's a view. Yeah, I mean it's it's just a

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painting in my bedroom.

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But it looks good. It looks good.

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Yeah, it's it's it's it's soothing.

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It's been two years. Mister Chad I see. First of all,

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I'll just open by saying what we used to do

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for Every Dad's Own podcast. I've got my vodka tonic

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to start the show with. And what is it that

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you're enjoying this? So?

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Uh tis the season, it's the holidays, and one of

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my favorite holiday drinks is is this one right here?

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This is a apple cider margarita.

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Apple cider margarita.

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Yeah, you got you?

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All right? So it's basically is it just cider and tequila,

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is or anything else?

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It's cider, tequila, a little bit of orange liqueur, some

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lime juice.

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Right, So a little nave syrup, does it? Do you

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have a guy?

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Know? The apple syrup covers covers the diabetes portion of

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the drink. Yeah, well that's good. Yeah right, it's you

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get diabetes and a little buzz. It's really it's awesome.

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I mean, this is that time of year for me

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as we're as we're getting dangerously close for we're recording

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this right after Thanksgiving, so it's get dangerously close to

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December here, and for me, this is always white Russian

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time of year. This is tick into that. I love

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those this time of yere. But I'm gonna have to

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try me an apple cider margarita. That sounds I will, well,

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we can post the recipe for folks. Yeah, I will

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send it to you.

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There are a million different recipes for this particular drink.

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I think the one that we we honed in on

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those super simple, super yummy.

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Yeah, I agree. Also, will throw this up on a

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poll right now where we still exist on X We

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still have a Dad's Home podcast on X although I'm

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very rarely there. Again two years things have certainly changed

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in the social media world, and X is I think

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on the way out at least for me is and

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paying attention there. But we'll post a poll there and

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find out, you know, is is the better drink for

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the holidays? A white Russian or an apple cider margarita?

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Which is? Which is? Which is more needed for the holidays?

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This time?

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I think, I think you and I need to bring

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you know, some flow charts and graphs and stuff to

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really kind of have a battle to side, you know,

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pros and cons on that one. That's that sounds like

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a future episode.

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And maybe there's maybe there's something else. Maybe we'll even

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throw the vodkatonic in there, just for fun seas and

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see what the what the Dad's Home listeners are saying

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as we're kind of reintroducing because officially we're you know,

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the big news here, if we could get to a

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drum roll, is that we are going to have a

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twenty twenty five season number one, two, season three, Mister Chat,

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season three of the Dad's Home Podcast. So we're working

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on that diligently. This is the first one, just kind

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of catching up and kicking things back off to where

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we had been a couple of years ago. I see

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a hat a new hat from you on your nog

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in there as.

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A matter of fact, and that flows right nicely into

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the dad thing. So as uh fewer or previous listeners

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might know, both of us are softball dads. Yes, mine

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has grown up become quite large and now, as a

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senior in high school, large not not I mean tall like.

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I just I hear Kate right now, going dad, don't

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those words god? Large? Come on?

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I mean, Okay, she's still wears a medium. Okay, let's

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let's be honest.

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Point take and yes, but she is.

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She's five foot ten now, dude.

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Oh that's I think. Well, here's what I used to

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if I look if you look at my driver's license,

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my driving's licenses, I'm five foot ten. Yeah, I saw

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again two years is a lot has happened. I saw

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a doctor recently for my physical. They came and told

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me I was five nine. I'm like, what, how did

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you shrink? How did I shrink?

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Osteoporosis?

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Baby, dude, that can't happen at this age. I'm not kidding.

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Sixty Yeah, well, yeah, welcome, welcome to the show.

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Can I expect over the next couple of years, I'm

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going to lose another inch or two. That's not good?

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That's yeah. This is this is the major leagues of aging.

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That's what it is. So yeah, you and I are

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were in the bigs when it comes to getting old.

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Well, and I saw over the past two years for

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the junior slash senior years of Kate. I saw some

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home runs, some taters that were being hit by her

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high quality game and ship being played by Kate. Yep,

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pitch is like a star.

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Yep. She had a great, super great junior year playing

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high school ball and has had a couple of really

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nice select seasons. This fall, she had multiple offers from

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multiple schools, a couple two or three in the East Coast,

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and they were really exciting schools, except for they were

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on the East Coast.

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There's this whole thing for those of you who have

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kids that haven't gotten to the point of college yet,

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there's this whole thing called out of state tuition you

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have to deal with at that time. Like, not only

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is there, you know, your normal run of the mill

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tuition that you have to pay for for college, unless

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of course you're getting a scholarship from the school, but

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even then it may only be a partial scholarship. But

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the out of state tuition, forget about it. It's mostly

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like double whatever it is for in state tuition. So

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to think, oh, my kid could go to NYU or

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yea whatever, good luck, it's going to be double the

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price for whatever it is that you're looking to.

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Pay unless you can skim off of people's cryptocurrency transactions,

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or are potentially a mobster or have a marijuana dispensary

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or any number of things, or are a straight up

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criminal like Robin Banks.

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Yeah, pan for.

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College is like a legit impossible hill Piliclon.

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I've got you and I both have daughters who are seniors.

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They both know softball, they played softball together for a

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little bit in Texas there. I have watched Office Space

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again recently. I'm interested in trying to see if I

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can skim just a penny off of each transaction from

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somebody on cryptocurrency here to be able to pay for

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my daughter's school. That'd be fantastic.

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Yeah, I mean I've been working on it. Not a coder,

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not a hacker, so I'm not making any progress, but

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working on it, working on it.

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So this this hat, this school that's just going to

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go to.

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Yeah, this is so we we're super lucky, blessed that

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she decided to go to school about an hour and

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a half south of us in San Antonio, Trinity.

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University, San Antonio. I love it.

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I love the she got got an offer to play

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down there, and the coach, the program, the school, everything

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is a great, great fit, especially the hour and a

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half away part. I mean, you know, get to watcher.

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She can come home on weekends. There's a boyfriend in

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the picture now he's probably going to be up the

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road at A and M. So I can only imagine

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that also was on the spreadsheet of things that she

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wanted to you know.

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Commutable, commutable to parents, to do laundry and have some

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food and then commutable to the boyfriends as well.

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Right right, yeah, all those all those things. So we're

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we're super excited. It has been a journey. If any

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parents out there, dad's out there, have a child who

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plays high school athletics or or hopes to or hopes to,

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the recruiting process is it's a grind and it has

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been a learning, huge learning curve because it's it's like parenting, right,

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you come home from the hospital, you get this little baby,

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and you're like, what the hell am I supposed to

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do with this?

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Where's the directions letting me out of a hospital with

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this thing?

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I know? Yeah, no directions you know, And so you

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got to figure out while you go. Same thing with

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getting your kid recruited.

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Uh.

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And so it's been a great journey and it's finally over,

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which is super exciting. It takes a lot of pressure

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off the kid off, the pressure off of us. Now,

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Like I said, I'm working on scamming little little bits

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of off of top of cryptocurrency to pay for school.

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Although I'm also blessed she's a smart kid, so we

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get a couple of bucks for that. It's a private

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school too, so it's like no in state tuition break nothing,

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It's just like, okay, it costs a lot.

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That's one of the things that I found as well

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with this all is it like, I'm so my daughter

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played softball with Chad's daughter and and has been playing

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in high school and has been playing varsity for all

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the years, just like just like Kate had been. And

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yet she's making the decision now that she thinks she's done.

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She's like, I've really I played for so long, practiced,

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went to tournaments, and going to do it obviously for well,

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we say obviously for the senior year, but I'm not

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even sure that they're going to have enough kids to

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have a full team.

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Ooh.

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It's one of these things. And I'm so I'll get

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into this in future episod as well, but I'm at

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a place where we don't know if she's gonna have

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enough players to man a team coming up here in

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the spring, where we won't know until we get closer

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to the spring. But right now it's not looking particularly good.

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They had five seniors that graduated last year, so it's

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at this point it's not looking particularly good as far

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as you know, we haven't seen through this high school,

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but they've had a fantastic football program in the state

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and all of that here in Michigan, but they don't

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have any sort of feeder program coming in from anywhere

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for softball. And I don't know if you've found this

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in Texas. It's totally different world in Texas. I will

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tell you that softball programs in Texas are so competitive

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and so amazing as far as the organizations go. I

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can't imagine you not being able to have enough students

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to have a varsity baseball team, let alone probably more

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often than not on some form of JV team for

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most of the schools as well. But in our school,

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we don't have a JV team. We don't have enough

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for that. We don't have enough for a varsity team

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quite possibly. So we don't know what's going to have

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going into this senior year as TV, if there's even

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going to be a team. So she's kind of like

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this place where I've been playing travel for so long,

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I've been playing fallball for so long, I'm done. And

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so when she's looking at schools. While we did do

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initially the process through one of those sporting recruiting agency

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places that you pay monthly or whatever to help you

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and put you in touch with the coaches and you

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reach out and they reach out to you and you

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post videos and all of that kind of stuff. While

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we did do that and she did hear from some schools, largely,

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we ended up doing it probably later than most people

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would and didn't get any big schools that she'd wanted to.

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Any of the top schools that she wanted to get

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into weren't reaching out to her. They had already signed

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kids from a couple of years ago. So that's one

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of the things that you see as you're going through

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this process. Moreover, is I found that, at least for Charlie,

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for my daughter, was that she was just solely focused

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on the academic portion of things, Like she's got really

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good grades, honors classes, and National Honor Society, all of

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those kinds of things. And she's seen now as she

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did her early applications, those those are starting to pay

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off for her because she's getting colleges that are interested

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in her and that have accepted her based upon her application.

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That are places that she wanted to go based upon

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academics and not based upon softball at all. So that's

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a big plus. And and and for her, like I said,

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I think she's she's like, this is my senior year.

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I'd love to just play ball my senior year and

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then the following summer and then be done with the

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whole thing. Yeah.

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Yeah, I Our experience has been interesting. You're right here

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in Texas, softball's nuts and I think a large that's

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largely due to the fact that the weather down here

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is playable basically ten months out of the year. And

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you know, some of it you have to play through

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either really cold or really hot, but you know, you're

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it's not snow on the ground, it's not ice, et cetera.

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Occasionally there's a flood in the field is full of water.

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But besides that, but anyway, we I've seen sort of

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the same fall off despite the amount of kids that

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are playing softball down here, the fall off between the

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kids who are really into it, passionate, love the sport,

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want to play in college, and the kids who just

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you know, get into high school and they're like, I'm done.

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She's had four four kids on her team who are

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all seniors who quit this year. So four seniors who

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would have been on varsity would have been playing. All

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of them said we're done playing, not gonna play varsity softball.

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So there's and that's a long way of saying this,

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kids who love the sport and want to keep playing

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for the love of the sport playing college, and there

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are multiple opportunities for kids to play in college. The

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thing that I look, we learned a lot of the

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process too, is if you really love the game and

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you care about softball and not really like, hey, you

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know what college is as a step to my career,

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going the JC route, going to a junior college. Playing

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softball at the junior college level gets you into this

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group of kids who all of a sudden, those elite

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D one schools are looking at because now with the

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transfer protocol, protal portal, you know, the teams are much

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more fluid in terms of what the roster looks like.

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It's not just hey, we get these kids when they're freshmen.

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They follow us all the way for through you know,

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through four years. Duh. So that's one route for a

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lot of kids to go through. And that was on

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our list of things for Kate to do. Kate, like

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your kid, Charlie is, is you know academic smart? Can

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you know she could go to college and get scholarships

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based on that alone. She wanted to add the softball

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experience to that as well. So for every kid, it's

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it's different, right. A lot of kids are just like

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burnt out done, and you can tell, like those kids

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start to fall off around fifteen sixteen, and then it

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continues all the way till they're eighteen. And so you're

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left with these kids like my kid, who's just like

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and I love this, let's go. And but there are

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plenty of ways for kids to get into college if

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that's something they want to do. Our journey though, was

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academics first and then softball was second. And it's funny

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her catcher last year as a kid who's playing at

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Texas Tech this year catching for Nigerie Kennedy like the

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number one catcher for nigeram nice freshman like and she's

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a baller. She's so fun to watch. Anyways, that was

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kid's catcher last year. She you know, she had that

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D one route kind of kind of planned out, and

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she was recruited early, like as a junior. A lot

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of kids that Kate goes to school with and are

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talented get recruited. Kid on her high school teams going

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to ut you know that that kind of stuff, right,

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But then you have the kids who are like Kate,

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who are like uber nerd smart kids. They get recruited

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late to all these you know M I. T s

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and you know, Northwestern they're they're a little bit more

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d one. But Harvard's all the you know, those kinds

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of schools. Trinity is another one of the schools, you know,

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highly academic school. So yeah, they all recruit late. They wait,

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they know, because you know, all the kids that are

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super smart tend to get recruited later. So we learned

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that early on too, like, don't worry, there's plenty of

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time for you to get recruited. Kate's current coach even

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said the same thing, like, hey, look, I've had kids

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recruited the summer before school started, like within weeks of starting.

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So but man, we digress. That's a lot of talk

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about Well.

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I was gonna say it just to kind of offer

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that just a just a quick element to as well

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that that I when Kate, sorry, Charlie and I went

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to a Northwestern softball camp, uh, the softball coach there

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was very clear about how there's you know, all these

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predetermined times, like if you haven't heard by June of

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your junior year, blah blah blah, you're not going to

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get the recruiting that you're looking for. And and coach

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Doran had said it with Drown and said at one

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point in time that that they got one of their

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best players at Northwestern some three days before the start

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of the falls.

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That's crazy, I know.

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So they had, you know, while they had a bunch

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of other people recruited. They ended up with one of

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those situations that that we've seen happen so often where

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a player go gets has committed to Northwestern in this case,

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and then uncommits and goes someplace else like takes you know, gigot,

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Ohio State or whatever, whatever the deal is. It opens

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up a door in Northwestern. They have been looking at

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this girl, this girl hadn't committed. They go out of

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their way, make a big pitch, and they get her

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literally just as school's about to start, and she ends

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up being one of the best players that that school

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has seen during her time there. So again it's it's

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not necessarily the way it usually gets done or the

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progress that you've heard from all of these different places

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if you are dealing with the recruiting process. But there

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are ways around that. And I think you and I

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have talked about this off the air as well. I

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think that's gonna happen more frequently. Oh yes, this portal

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and the NIL starts to work its way through. So

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I think there's gonna be opportunity there. And while my

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conversation with Charlie has been largely look, if you don't

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go in after your senior year, if you're not playing

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softball at a collegiate level after your senior year, it's

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gonna be next to impossible for you, like your sophomore

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year at college. Just go okay, well maybe I'm ready

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to play now. Not gonna happen. You aren't going to

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have that luxury to be able to do that.

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So well, and look, and for kids that love the game,

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that going to the junior college route is so fantastic.

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That is like I've talked to D one coaches who said,

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we spend more time looking at JC kids than we

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do at kids who are juniors and seniors because we

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know that is a you know, they've had college experience

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at school, they've had college experience playing ball, and they're

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much more likely to be successful in college, you know, sophomore, junior,

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senior than like taking a taking a shot on a

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kid who's coming out as a senior. And so it's

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one of those things where the kids themselves have to decide.

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And I've asked Kate. I ask Kate almost every time

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we go to a tournament, like you love this game? Still?

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You love this game? Right? Like we're doing the right thing,

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Like we can quit any time. The minute you stop

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loving this game, we quit.

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We stop.

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Yeah, And I think every parent the best advice I

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can give other parents in this situation is ask your

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kid that question a lot that is so important for them,

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and have an honest dialogue about it, Like don't push

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your kid into it, and don't let your kid think

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that that's what you want them to do. Let them

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lead you. And that's been a super important thing I

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learned early on, like don't push let her drive it,

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and if she says she still loves it, then let's go.

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I'm all in, Like I'll drive you to hell and

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creation in Colorado and fucking Indiana and over. We got

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to go this summer. And I also, I also I

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wanted to share this with you. I like to quote

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Blue Dough on this one.

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You do you know, okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, uh you know.

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It's it's never it's not over till we say it's over, right,

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right do we do? We quit when the Germans bomb

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World Harbor, right right? So I'm just saying, Blueto, he

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knows what he's talking about.

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He does, he does. He's got to hang on. It's

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not over till it's olf f over, it's over. And

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look with anything here, I mean, it would be virtually

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impossible for Charlie at this point to to jump into

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a softball program, like she's like, oh my god, this scene.

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Your year was fantastic on the team and the summer

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travel team was amazing and she hit six hundred and whatever.

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You know, like, yeah, there's no way that that's gonna happen. You,

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there's always an opportunity that you could be a walk

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on at some whatever school you end up going to.

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You could certainly try, but likely not going to happen

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that you get certainly any starting position from that.

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Well not I mean not if you want to go

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to like a you know, four year D one school,

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that's absolutely true. But if the kids like hey, I'm

473
00:23:29.200 --> 00:23:31.720
not done playing, Like what I would say to Charlie.

474
00:23:33.200 --> 00:23:35.200
Not my kid, but if I was having this conress,

475
00:23:35.200 --> 00:23:37.799
if you me, Kate and Charlie were sitting around, Yeah,

476
00:23:37.839 --> 00:23:40.359
what I says, Charlie, are you done playing? Or do

477
00:23:40.400 --> 00:23:42.359
you love the game still? And if you love the game,

478
00:23:42.400 --> 00:23:44.440
there's a way there's a school out there that wants

479
00:23:44.480 --> 00:23:46.960
you to play for them, right. I mean, I can't

480
00:23:46.960 --> 00:23:50.279
tell you, honestly, how many junior colleges have reached out

481
00:23:50.319 --> 00:23:53.119
to Kate even after she's committed, like, hey, you want

482
00:23:53.119 --> 00:23:54.160
to come play with those please?

483
00:23:54.240 --> 00:23:56.400
And Charlie and had those as well, and she said yeah.

484
00:23:56.519 --> 00:23:58.720
And the greatest thing about that too, that I found

485
00:23:59.000 --> 00:24:01.880
and I try to steer as many people dis direction

486
00:24:01.960 --> 00:24:06.079
as I possible. Can go get your school paid for it,

487
00:24:06.200 --> 00:24:10.119
like JC will pay for everything. The kid who is

488
00:24:10.119 --> 00:24:13.519
the pitcher for Kate's high school went to a junior

489
00:24:13.519 --> 00:24:16.799
college in Florida for two years, lived on the beach,

490
00:24:17.839 --> 00:24:20.799
went to the beach, played softball. They won the Junior

491
00:24:20.799 --> 00:24:27.279
College World Series. She's now at some D one school.

492
00:24:27.319 --> 00:24:30.480
I'm going to drop link on the name, but anyway, so,

493
00:24:30.759 --> 00:24:33.400
but they saw her play in that at that level

494
00:24:33.400 --> 00:24:35.119
and they're like, come on, let's go. And she's got

495
00:24:35.119 --> 00:24:37.839
a full ride now at a D one school. So

496
00:24:39.559 --> 00:24:41.279
it looks it just comes down of like do I

497
00:24:41.279 --> 00:24:42.880
want to go to college or do I want to

498
00:24:42.920 --> 00:24:43.279
play ball?

499
00:24:43.359 --> 00:24:44.799
Well, and if you don't know, like if you're if

500
00:24:44.839 --> 00:24:46.599
you don't know what you want to do in college,

501
00:24:47.160 --> 00:24:49.240
to go to a junior college, shame money. Like my

502
00:24:49.400 --> 00:24:52.079
next my nephew right at COVID was accepted to a

503
00:24:52.119 --> 00:24:54.799
SUH lives in California. He was except accepted to Arizona State.

504
00:24:55.079 --> 00:24:57.079
COVID hit. He couldn't go to Arizona State. So for

505
00:24:57.119 --> 00:24:59.720
those two years of COVID, he did junior college, didn't

506
00:24:59.759 --> 00:25:02.559
He's he's coming out as a junior in a ton

507
00:25:02.559 --> 00:25:04.839
of debt, right, you know, it's home taking care of

508
00:25:05.039 --> 00:25:06.519
He's got all this stuff. He went down to as

509
00:25:06.559 --> 00:25:08.400
soon as he graduate. As soon as he left the

510
00:25:08.400 --> 00:25:11.480
two years of JC, he went down to UCSB and

511
00:25:11.519 --> 00:25:13.519
Santa Barbara. So he's going to school in Santa Barbara

512
00:25:13.519 --> 00:25:16.720
for junior A terrible school, right, terrible place too to

513
00:25:16.799 --> 00:25:19.359
be riding your bike around Santa Barbara.

514
00:25:20.279 --> 00:25:22.000
I have a really good friend of mine went to

515
00:25:22.039 --> 00:25:23.799
school there and I used to go visit her all

516
00:25:23.839 --> 00:25:24.160
the time.

517
00:25:24.319 --> 00:25:27.920
I'm like, touch a beautiful So anyways, but that's the

518
00:25:27.960 --> 00:25:30.559
thing is that you you you you do JC, if

519
00:25:30.599 --> 00:25:32.559
you want to play ball, you give yourself the ability

520
00:25:32.599 --> 00:25:35.799
to compete on that level, still develop and become a

521
00:25:35.839 --> 00:25:38.319
star level athlete that D one schools are going to

522
00:25:38.359 --> 00:25:40.720
be looking at right there coming out of JC, and

523
00:25:40.759 --> 00:25:42.599
you might get two years of a free ride and

524
00:25:42.640 --> 00:25:44.839
that helps the school, it helps you out, and you've

525
00:25:44.839 --> 00:25:48.279
done two years of you know, your undergrad work relatively cheaply,

526
00:25:48.599 --> 00:25:50.559
so it's a huge plus that way, if that's the

527
00:25:50.559 --> 00:25:53.240
way you want to go. And I've had those conversations

528
00:25:53.279 --> 00:25:56.240
with my daughter as well, and I think I think.

529
00:25:56.039 --> 00:25:57.960
That do you need me to start texting her like

530
00:25:58.000 --> 00:25:59.039
little hints like.

531
00:25:59.000 --> 00:26:03.079
Look, I tried, Chad. I just think and this is

532
00:26:03.119 --> 00:26:04.440
one of those things like you said, this is this

533
00:26:04.519 --> 00:26:08.160
isn't about me, So I can't make that decision for her.

534
00:26:08.200 --> 00:26:12.319
This is her decision. And as you know, she had

535
00:26:12.400 --> 00:26:15.599
quit softball before and then made her way back to it,

536
00:26:15.640 --> 00:26:17.400
and I think this is just I think she feels

537
00:26:17.440 --> 00:26:22.559
like she's ready to move into focusing on the career

538
00:26:22.680 --> 00:26:26.680
and the education and making sure that her grades were

539
00:26:26.720 --> 00:26:28.880
good enough to get her to a point where you know,

540
00:26:29.000 --> 00:26:30.839
she's gotten a couple of schools that are that have

541
00:26:30.880 --> 00:26:36.160
offered like sixty grand intuition through scholarships on an academic level.

542
00:26:36.279 --> 00:26:40.000
So there's like they're they're good happening. I know there

543
00:26:40.000 --> 00:26:42.400
are good things that are happening for her on that front.

544
00:26:42.799 --> 00:26:44.440
And I told her at the same time, like a

545
00:26:44.440 --> 00:26:46.599
couple of schools, like you haven't really reached out to

546
00:26:46.599 --> 00:26:48.880
them about softball. There's one's a D one school, but

547
00:26:48.920 --> 00:26:50.880
it's a lower level D one, you know, as far

548
00:26:50.880 --> 00:26:53.359
as where they compete. She could still go and reach

549
00:26:53.400 --> 00:26:55.400
out to them and talk with them. Because my thing

550
00:26:55.559 --> 00:26:57.119
is this, and this I believe this to be true.

551
00:26:57.119 --> 00:26:59.599
Maybe you'll have a different you know, look of things

552
00:26:59.599 --> 00:27:02.680
for k maybe you'll be like, this is absolutely the truth.

553
00:27:02.680 --> 00:27:05.440
But I also think going to college where you've got,

554
00:27:05.480 --> 00:27:07.279
you know, a bunch of other students from all over

555
00:27:07.319 --> 00:27:10.119
the states that are coming together at that college, it's

556
00:27:10.200 --> 00:27:12.839
tough enough to find friends as it is sometimes going

557
00:27:12.880 --> 00:27:18.119
into college softball sisters, people that are playing softball together,

558
00:27:18.160 --> 00:27:20.400
Like I know when we went to Northwestern again, not

559
00:27:20.440 --> 00:27:22.799
to bring up Northwestern all the time, but it was

560
00:27:22.839 --> 00:27:24.839
one of the camps we went to where they talked

561
00:27:24.839 --> 00:27:27.519
about the girls on that team, how they welcome the

562
00:27:27.559 --> 00:27:30.039
new girls on day one. They take them as like

563
00:27:30.039 --> 00:27:32.599
a group of two or three of those players will

564
00:27:32.680 --> 00:27:36.279
walk that player, that new player freshman around the campus

565
00:27:36.319 --> 00:27:39.039
and take them to her classes, take her to, you know,

566
00:27:39.079 --> 00:27:41.960
wherever she needs to be and see things. They'll walk

567
00:27:42.000 --> 00:27:44.359
her through everything as just a group of friends would

568
00:27:44.359 --> 00:27:46.400
do as sisters would do, and they have become that

569
00:27:46.519 --> 00:27:49.640
tight from playing softball. So my concern for my daughter was,

570
00:27:49.799 --> 00:27:52.039
here's a chance for you to have sort of a

571
00:27:52.039 --> 00:27:54.640
built in friendship, which her closest friends right now are

572
00:27:54.640 --> 00:27:57.039
people that she's played softball with. Here's a chance for

573
00:27:57.119 --> 00:27:59.160
you to have that built in friendship as you are

574
00:27:59.200 --> 00:28:03.119
getting to this brand new sometimes overwhelming depending on how

575
00:28:03.160 --> 00:28:06.319
big the campus may be or how small it may

576
00:28:06.319 --> 00:28:09.480
be overwhelming situation where you want to meet new people

577
00:28:09.480 --> 00:28:11.960
and you think there'd be this opportunity because everybody's coming

578
00:28:12.000 --> 00:28:14.359
in as a freshman there, this would be an opportunity

579
00:28:14.359 --> 00:28:17.000
to have sort of built in friends. So that's that's

580
00:28:17.079 --> 00:28:18.599
kind of one of the pitches that I was trying

581
00:28:18.759 --> 00:28:20.920
to make a little easier for her. So there's no

582
00:28:21.319 --> 00:28:23.599
you know, there's no anxiety on the friend front when

583
00:28:23.640 --> 00:28:25.519
you're there, or hopefully less anxiety on the.

584
00:28:25.440 --> 00:28:30.960
Front, you know. So it's only been three four weeks

585
00:28:32.440 --> 00:28:38.039
that we last visited Trinity and talked to the coach

586
00:28:38.119 --> 00:28:40.559
and met some of the players and did all that

587
00:28:40.599 --> 00:28:44.200
kind of stuff as like a as part of the process,

588
00:28:44.480 --> 00:28:50.920
and Kate in that process got to go to a

589
00:28:50.960 --> 00:28:55.839
class with a couple of the softball players and went

590
00:28:55.880 --> 00:28:59.759
to lunch with two or three other softball players, and

591
00:29:01.720 --> 00:29:05.720
so it was already a connection there happening before she

592
00:29:05.759 --> 00:29:10.279
even got there. And it was to add it to

593
00:29:10.319 --> 00:29:13.559
what you're saying, is it was clearly, very clear that

594
00:29:13.599 --> 00:29:15.880
there's a sisterhood there. And that was one of the

595
00:29:15.880 --> 00:29:17.640
things as a parent, like I look at that and

596
00:29:17.720 --> 00:29:20.319
I'm like, yeah, have some of that, Yes, get that

597
00:29:20.400 --> 00:29:25.640
because you know, when you pick a team that's not

598
00:29:25.680 --> 00:29:29.359
your high school team, like a select team, right, chemistry

599
00:29:29.720 --> 00:29:33.359
and team camaraderie and culture and all those things are

600
00:29:33.400 --> 00:29:37.319
so important. And I asked Kate after she went to

601
00:29:37.480 --> 00:29:40.240
the class and lunch with those girls and said, you know,

602
00:29:40.400 --> 00:29:42.680
how was it. She goes, Oh, those are my people?

603
00:29:42.920 --> 00:29:46.319
Like I fit right, in there, and and that is

604
00:29:47.039 --> 00:29:49.200
that is one of the great things about like college

605
00:29:49.240 --> 00:29:52.359
athletics too, I think, is that there is the ability

606
00:29:52.480 --> 00:29:56.640
to have that instant family, the instant friends, the sisterhood,

607
00:29:56.680 --> 00:30:01.480
like you said. And as a parent, right when you

608
00:30:01.519 --> 00:30:04.119
send your kid off to school, like already I'm freaking

609
00:30:04.160 --> 00:30:07.319
out as a kid. Who I've got a kid who's

610
00:30:07.319 --> 00:30:12.160
a senior, right, who she's starting that like break, I'm

611
00:30:12.160 --> 00:30:15.440
becoming independent, Like hey dad, I'm going out. Okay, where

612
00:30:15.480 --> 00:30:18.400
are you going. I'm going with my boyfriend and my friends. Okay,

613
00:30:19.319 --> 00:30:22.279
when are you coming home later? Right? It's like it's

614
00:30:22.319 --> 00:30:25.039
like this, this is just weird, like you know used

615
00:30:25.039 --> 00:30:30.720
to like I remember when you were ten and anyway,

616
00:30:30.720 --> 00:30:34.319
as a senior, that's happening. And so it's preparing me for,

617
00:30:35.079 --> 00:30:37.960
you know, six months from now when I'm gonna cry

618
00:30:38.039 --> 00:30:38.799
like a baby.

619
00:30:38.519 --> 00:30:41.079
When you drop when you ball like a little kid.

620
00:30:41.480 --> 00:30:43.440
Yeah, it's curl up in the back seat of the car.

621
00:30:43.319 --> 00:30:48.960
And start starting with prom and graduation and your way

622
00:30:49.000 --> 00:30:51.680
to dropping her off at school. Yeah, I'm I'm very

623
00:30:51.759 --> 00:30:54.839
much looking for But that thing.

624
00:30:55.039 --> 00:30:58.440
Being able to see that as a parent helps that anxiety.

625
00:30:58.799 --> 00:31:01.640
I have to drink less I have to take less Sanax.

626
00:31:01.759 --> 00:31:04.400
It's it's it helps, Yes, definitely helps.

627
00:31:04.640 --> 00:31:08.200
It definitely does help. So look at it's I think, uh,

628
00:31:08.480 --> 00:31:10.319
for parents that are going to go through this or

629
00:31:10.400 --> 00:31:15.240
have that process down the road for themselves, realize you're

630
00:31:15.279 --> 00:31:17.119
gonna get through it. It's there's a lot to pick

631
00:31:17.200 --> 00:31:19.759
up on. There's a lot to learn from, uh. Chad

632
00:31:19.799 --> 00:31:22.359
and I will go through more in greater detail of

633
00:31:22.400 --> 00:31:25.359
what those situations feel like, look like, what you could

634
00:31:25.400 --> 00:31:27.039
expect from it. To try to help you guys out

635
00:31:27.160 --> 00:31:29.680
and be a point of contact for questions that you

636
00:31:29.720 --> 00:31:31.839
may or may not have. You could always reach out

637
00:31:31.839 --> 00:31:33.960
to us at Real Guy radio dot com. That's the

638
00:31:34.000 --> 00:31:36.759
home for the Dad's Home podcast. I got videos there,

639
00:31:36.759 --> 00:31:38.599
we got emails, We've got any way that you need

640
00:31:38.599 --> 00:31:40.119
to get a hold of us, mailing list, all of

641
00:31:40.119 --> 00:31:41.519
that kind of stuff. We'll get into more of that

642
00:31:41.599 --> 00:31:44.480
as things start to develop into season number three for

643
00:31:44.519 --> 00:31:46.440
the Dad's Home Podcasts. Well, what we'll do is take

644
00:31:46.480 --> 00:31:48.920
a quick break when we come right back. We got

645
00:31:48.920 --> 00:31:52.680
a little dad vice that is going to be I

646
00:31:52.720 --> 00:31:54.799
don't want to say that this Tyson, and do exactly

647
00:31:54.880 --> 00:31:56.759
what you were just saying there, Chad because I don't

648
00:31:56.759 --> 00:31:58.160
want to. I don't want to lay this a case,

649
00:31:58.240 --> 00:32:00.880
but it does. But there's a there's this certain a

650
00:32:01.000 --> 00:32:02.680
question that we'll bring to the table here and I'm

651
00:32:02.680 --> 00:32:05.200
gonna look for one solid piece of advice from both

652
00:32:05.200 --> 00:32:07.200
of us, and then we'll go to the tape with

653
00:32:07.319 --> 00:32:09.440
a couple of different things to look at, including the

654
00:32:09.480 --> 00:32:12.000
one reason if you were looking for any these days,

655
00:32:12.200 --> 00:32:14.839
if you were looking for a reason to not have

656
00:32:14.880 --> 00:32:18.319
an affair in your marriage, I've got one of them.

657
00:32:18.160 --> 00:32:21.160
For you, damn it, because I was looking for a reason.

658
00:32:21.400 --> 00:32:23.119
We're this is one that's not well.

659
00:32:23.359 --> 00:32:25.079
I'll I mean, I'll let you take a look at

660
00:32:25.079 --> 00:32:27.440
it and decide. I know, but I'll let you take

661
00:32:27.440 --> 00:32:29.279
a look at it and decide. But we will all

662
00:32:29.559 --> 00:32:31.359
get to view this in just a little bit here.

663
00:32:31.400 --> 00:32:34.359
I think it's definitely one of the but probably the

664
00:32:34.480 --> 00:32:38.160
number one reason right now why you would go yeah, thanks,

665
00:32:38.160 --> 00:32:41.000
but no thanks. Coming up here at the Dad's Home Podcast,

666
00:32:41.920 --> 00:32:44.240
Let's make a call to the bullpen.

667
00:32:43.920 --> 00:32:48.440
And it's your comic wely B Daniel Tosh.

668
00:32:48.480 --> 00:32:52.599
It's been at quarterbacks, Brett Farv. I love that everybody

669
00:32:52.599 --> 00:32:56.000
gave him so much grief to retire Brett Farv should retire?

670
00:32:56.200 --> 00:32:58.799
Are you out of your mind? He makes twelve million

671
00:32:58.839 --> 00:33:05.599
dollars a year to play again. Yeah, I'm gonna keep playing. Hey, Brat,

672
00:33:05.640 --> 00:33:08.880
the whole world thinks she should retire. You said twelve million, right, Yeah,

673
00:33:08.880 --> 00:33:15.759
they can go themselves. I would never quit.

674
00:33:15.799 --> 00:33:16.359
Are you kidding me?

675
00:33:16.400 --> 00:33:17.160
What about four years?

676
00:33:17.160 --> 00:33:18.640
He's not good enough to be a starter, but he

677
00:33:18.640 --> 00:33:19.759
could be a backup in the NFL.

678
00:33:19.839 --> 00:33:20.480
Do you know what that pays?

679
00:33:20.480 --> 00:33:22.759
About four to five million? Oh, yep, I'm gonna do that.

680
00:33:24.119 --> 00:33:26.000
About ten years, not good enough to be a backup,

681
00:33:26.039 --> 00:33:28.039
but he could be on the practice squad. Do you

682
00:33:28.039 --> 00:33:30.960
know what that pays? About eight hundred and fifty thousand? Yep,

683
00:33:31.000 --> 00:33:34.599
I'm gonna do that as well. Play forever. It'd make

684
00:33:34.640 --> 00:33:37.079
the game more enjoyable if people weren't allowed to retire.

685
00:33:37.279 --> 00:33:39.880
Athletes don't want to quit either. See some seventy year

686
00:33:39.880 --> 00:33:44.680
old return of punt. He gets hit, he explodes, He

687
00:33:44.720 --> 00:33:48.799
dies on the field with some honor, some comic relief.

688
00:33:49.079 --> 00:33:50.000
The Dollar Show.

689
00:33:51.680 --> 00:33:57.079
This is a song, ladies, But fellas.

690
00:34:00.119 --> 00:34:05.200
Don't always have to fuck her heart. In fact, sometimes

691
00:34:05.319 --> 00:34:06.920
that's not right to do.

692
00:34:08.400 --> 00:34:12.960
Some times you've got to make some lak and fucking

693
00:34:13.079 --> 00:34:14.880
give her some smoothes too.

694
00:34:16.239 --> 00:34:22.880
Sometimes you got to squeeze. Sometimes you got to see please,

695
00:34:24.360 --> 00:34:28.320
sometime you got to see.

696
00:34:27.840 --> 00:34:35.400
I'm gonna fuck you shortly, I'm gonna screw you gently,

697
00:34:35.920 --> 00:34:43.480
i wonna harm you sweetly, harmona, ball you discreetly.

698
00:34:45.719 --> 00:34:49.920
And then you see here I've put your flowers. And

699
00:34:50.039 --> 00:34:54.440
then you say, wait a minute, Sally, I think I

700
00:34:54.639 --> 00:34:57.840
got something in my teeth, but you get it out

701
00:34:57.920 --> 00:34:58.239
for me.

702
00:34:59.199 --> 00:35:01.079
That's fucking team work.

703
00:35:02.159 --> 00:35:06.239
What's your favorite position? That's cool with me.

704
00:35:06.400 --> 00:35:09.360
It's I'm my favorite, but I'll do it for you.

705
00:35:10.119 --> 00:35:12.159
What's your favorite dish.

706
00:35:12.400 --> 00:35:15.840
I'm not gonna cook your butt or order it from Sanzibar.

707
00:35:16.880 --> 00:35:18.679
And then I'm on love.

708
00:35:18.639 --> 00:35:22.719
You really, and I fucking fuck you.

709
00:35:22.920 --> 00:35:28.679
Discreetly, and then a fucking bone you can clearly, But

710
00:35:28.920 --> 00:35:31.360
then I'm on a bud.

711
00:35:54.079 --> 00:35:59.119
Welcome back to the Dad's Whole Podcast. All right, mister Chad.

712
00:36:00.400 --> 00:36:02.159
Time to get some of the business that we usually

713
00:36:02.239 --> 00:36:04.639
take care of. The that's on podcasts. Dad Vice is

714
00:36:04.679 --> 00:36:06.679
one of them. On the way We've got to the tape,

715
00:36:06.679 --> 00:36:10.559
and probably what I'm gonna say is one of, if

716
00:36:10.599 --> 00:36:12.440
not the number one reason why you don't want to

717
00:36:12.440 --> 00:36:14.119
have that affair. If you've been thinking about it, if

718
00:36:14.159 --> 00:36:15.760
you were at the bar for a very busy pre

719
00:36:15.880 --> 00:36:19.360
Thanksgiving night and you've got approached by somebody, you're like,

720
00:36:19.519 --> 00:36:23.800
maybe no, this is gonna clearly set you up for failure.

721
00:36:23.840 --> 00:36:25.719
And I'll explain why coming up in just a minute.

722
00:36:25.719 --> 00:36:26.679
Here let's go.

723
00:36:26.920 --> 00:36:29.199
We've got video footage of it, just to highlight that

724
00:36:29.239 --> 00:36:31.800
for everybody. So that said, before we do, let's get

725
00:36:31.800 --> 00:36:33.960
to some dad device, which I think is something we

726
00:36:34.079 --> 00:36:36.519
like to do here and this one is definitely an

727
00:36:36.559 --> 00:36:41.519
important one. And I found a great little Reddit world

728
00:36:42.079 --> 00:36:44.800
where people are looking for advice from pars like maybe

729
00:36:44.800 --> 00:36:47.000
they don't have a father anymore, maybe their dad never

730
00:36:47.039 --> 00:36:49.559
spoke to them, or it goes back to my whole concept,

731
00:36:49.599 --> 00:36:51.079
mister Ted, I told you about one time where I

732
00:36:51.119 --> 00:36:53.760
wanted to have a business called rent a Dad for

733
00:36:53.840 --> 00:36:55.920
the soul mass of Like if you like you had

734
00:36:55.920 --> 00:36:57.559
to change the brakes on your car, but your dad

735
00:36:57.599 --> 00:36:59.760
never showed you how to do it, and you want

736
00:36:59.760 --> 00:37:01.519
to learn how to do it, but you don't have

737
00:37:01.559 --> 00:37:03.199
a father figure in a life and more, you could

738
00:37:03.199 --> 00:37:05.840
rend a dad that would come over. Who have you

739
00:37:05.880 --> 00:37:08.800
bought that yet I haven't yet, and I think, what

740
00:37:08.800 --> 00:37:11.039
are you doing? I think somebody's gonna steal the idea now,

741
00:37:11.079 --> 00:37:13.039
But I think that there's you know, a concept there

742
00:37:13.119 --> 00:37:14.800
that it could be any of that. It could be

743
00:37:15.039 --> 00:37:17.719
maybe you want to learn how to cook a steak

744
00:37:18.039 --> 00:37:20.280
on the grill, and you don't have a father figure,

745
00:37:20.320 --> 00:37:21.960
you can hire a dad to come over for an

746
00:37:22.000 --> 00:37:24.239
hour teach you all the prep work, how to cook

747
00:37:24.239 --> 00:37:25.840
it what you suppose. So all that's that, that's my

748
00:37:25.880 --> 00:37:26.920
idea of concept, right.

749
00:37:27.280 --> 00:37:30.679
I mean dad jokes, you know of it, practical practical

750
00:37:30.760 --> 00:37:32.920
jokes where you're like, you know, fixing electricity in their

751
00:37:32.920 --> 00:37:34.840
house and pretend to get shocked.

752
00:37:35.039 --> 00:37:38.039
Absolutely, that kind of stuff. So this is where this

753
00:37:38.119 --> 00:37:40.559
is where we feel like this is an opportunity for

754
00:37:40.639 --> 00:37:43.000
us as dads to step up in somebody who doesn't

755
00:37:43.000 --> 00:37:45.679
have that dad in their life anymore. And in doing so,

756
00:37:46.079 --> 00:37:48.639
I brought one of the toughest questions to our table.

757
00:37:50.280 --> 00:37:53.679
So this says it's me again. As I said before,

758
00:37:53.679 --> 00:37:58.320
my dad or parents per se, never gave me the talk.

759
00:37:59.079 --> 00:38:02.280
Oh here I'm taking up the courage to ask, is

760
00:38:02.320 --> 00:38:05.920
there any advice from men to give me? Again? I

761
00:38:05.960 --> 00:38:09.639
am a fourteen year old boy. Now, first thing, I

762
00:38:09.719 --> 00:38:12.760
just want to he typed in. I am and fourteen

763
00:38:12.840 --> 00:38:14.800
year old boy. And my first concept is if you

764
00:38:14.840 --> 00:38:17.440
can't get that correct, don't worry about getting laid right now.

765
00:38:19.079 --> 00:38:22.400
Proper grammar is going to is what's gonna attract the

766
00:38:22.480 --> 00:38:23.199
ladies to you.

767
00:38:23.199 --> 00:38:27.199
You know what, though, these days, bro, the grammar is

768
00:38:27.400 --> 00:38:29.719
on the outs. Like if you watch the way your

769
00:38:29.800 --> 00:38:33.760
kids text, sure Be's grammar doesn't exist anymore.

770
00:38:33.800 --> 00:38:34.559
No, look now does you?

771
00:38:34.599 --> 00:38:37.320
And I know it. I am a huge fan of

772
00:38:37.360 --> 00:38:39.840
grammar ly, so I'm all about the periods and the

773
00:38:39.880 --> 00:38:41.320
capitals and all that kind.

774
00:38:41.159 --> 00:38:43.000
Of I and I listen. I agree with you on

775
00:38:43.519 --> 00:38:45.440
and we all know how important pronouns are these days.

776
00:38:45.480 --> 00:38:47.960
But I would also say that that at the same time,

777
00:38:48.159 --> 00:38:50.480
while your six pack abs do look good and your

778
00:38:50.559 --> 00:38:55.519
zero percent body fat, when you go to speak, I

779
00:38:55.559 --> 00:38:58.519
am and fourteen year old boy, you're gonna turn some

780
00:38:58.599 --> 00:39:01.360
chicks off. They're not really the billion Sorry did you say?

781
00:39:01.400 --> 00:39:02.960
And I'm and fourteen year old boy?

782
00:39:03.280 --> 00:39:05.920
Let's I mean hold on, like we need some context here.

783
00:39:06.039 --> 00:39:09.159
Maybe this is a Russian kid. I am, I'm fourteen

784
00:39:09.239 --> 00:39:09.679
year old.

785
00:39:09.639 --> 00:39:12.079
I am and fourteen year old boy. I'm looking to

786
00:39:12.159 --> 00:39:16.159
know insight on how what he's good in the talk?

787
00:39:17.159 --> 00:39:20.119
I mean, you don't know, so right, I figured, let's

788
00:39:20.199 --> 00:39:22.800
let's let's figure this out with each of us giving

789
00:39:22.880 --> 00:39:25.239
one just to this fourteen year old kid who's out

790
00:39:25.239 --> 00:39:26.880
there on Reddit and wants to he didn't have a

791
00:39:26.920 --> 00:39:29.639
talk with his parents for whatever reason. Maybe they died,

792
00:39:29.679 --> 00:39:31.800
maybe they don't speak the same language. I don't know,

793
00:39:32.079 --> 00:39:35.480
but he's looking for some insight. What what do you

794
00:39:35.639 --> 00:39:39.719
think your number one thing to tell the kid at

795
00:39:39.719 --> 00:39:43.360
the at the talk would be because I've got I've

796
00:39:43.360 --> 00:39:45.559
got I've got one that we we talk about and

797
00:39:45.599 --> 00:39:48.079
we play comedy from which I think is important to note.

798
00:39:48.119 --> 00:39:52.239
And as a girl, dad, I think this is very important.

799
00:39:52.280 --> 00:39:54.719
So I'll start us off, which is simple. It's two

800
00:39:54.760 --> 00:39:57.400
simple words. Don't rain?

801
00:40:00.440 --> 00:40:02.000
Okay, sure, don't.

802
00:40:02.360 --> 00:40:05.840
That goes with us? That's yes, But look, I think

803
00:40:05.880 --> 00:40:08.599
it's common knowledge. But I also think so, so I

804
00:40:08.760 --> 00:40:12.400
based I'm a fourteen year old boy is common knowledge.

805
00:40:12.440 --> 00:40:15.679
So I'm gonna say it, and I'm sorry if this

806
00:40:15.760 --> 00:40:20.559
sounds do not do not follow through in the rape consent.

807
00:40:21.079 --> 00:40:24.960
You must get the consent, you must ask for yes,

808
00:40:25.000 --> 00:40:27.639
you must wait for yes before you move forward, not

809
00:40:27.840 --> 00:40:30.800
maybe a little beating between. You must wait for yes.

810
00:40:32.159 --> 00:40:35.519
No that is not yet full throated yes, I am

811
00:40:35.559 --> 00:40:37.760
ready give it to me. That's what you have to

812
00:40:37.800 --> 00:40:40.320
wait for. You can't. This is not there's no gray

813
00:40:40.400 --> 00:40:43.159
area here, there's no in between. So if you think

814
00:40:43.239 --> 00:40:46.679
she's consented, guess what You've gotta wait and find out

815
00:40:46.719 --> 00:40:49.039
for sure. You gotta ask questions. And I know that

816
00:40:49.039 --> 00:40:51.360
that turns some people off. And there are plenty of

817
00:40:51.360 --> 00:40:53.360
women who are like I like an aggressive guy, yeah,

818
00:40:53.360 --> 00:40:55.840
but they also don't like to get raped. So I

819
00:40:55.880 --> 00:40:58.280
would make this suggestion to a fourteen year old boy,

820
00:40:58.519 --> 00:41:01.960
a don't rape, and what that means is get the consent.

821
00:41:02.039 --> 00:41:04.239
So if you haven't had the time, things are going well,

822
00:41:04.320 --> 00:41:06.719
maybe you guys have been dating for a while, maybe

823
00:41:06.760 --> 00:41:08.320
you feel like this is just the next natural step.

824
00:41:08.360 --> 00:41:10.599
Maybe she's coming on to you, any of that, and

825
00:41:10.719 --> 00:41:13.840
all of that could be happening in one date. I'm saying,

826
00:41:14.360 --> 00:41:18.159
don't rape, and the way you prevent that ask for consent.

827
00:41:18.960 --> 00:41:20.800
That's what I say is one of the most important.

828
00:41:20.800 --> 00:41:23.480
If I had a boy, I would I would say

829
00:41:23.519 --> 00:41:26.519
that that is the number one thing to not do

830
00:41:26.639 --> 00:41:29.280
and make sure you get consent. Don't rape and get consent.

831
00:41:32.719 --> 00:41:34.599
God damn it, Bower, why'd you take my answer?

832
00:41:37.639 --> 00:41:39.239
I got another one if you wanted to. I felt

833
00:41:39.239 --> 00:41:40.559
like I had eight of these, but I don't want

834
00:41:40.559 --> 00:41:42.159
to take one for you.

835
00:41:42.239 --> 00:41:43.880
Just text it to me, so it sounds like I

836
00:41:43.920 --> 00:41:44.519
came up with it.

837
00:41:44.599 --> 00:41:48.639
Okay, I'll let me do that. Text you real quick.

838
00:41:49.840 --> 00:41:50.639
Hold on, here we go.

839
00:41:52.079 --> 00:41:56.039
Uh. I'm trying to figure out a way to not

840
00:41:56.159 --> 00:41:59.360
sound like a dick when I'm saying it, don't rape.

841
00:41:59.440 --> 00:42:01.960
There you go. That's another don't rape was pretty dickish.

842
00:42:02.000 --> 00:42:04.239
You gotta admit that was a pretty dickish statement to

843
00:42:04.239 --> 00:42:04.679
make for me.

844
00:42:04.800 --> 00:42:12.719
But yeah, yeah, okay, So as a girl, dad, it's

845
00:42:12.719 --> 00:42:15.440
funny I had this conversation this morning with my wife.

846
00:42:15.599 --> 00:42:15.880
You did.

847
00:42:16.760 --> 00:42:26.400
Kate has a boyfriend and nothing ruins a softball career, uh, college,

848
00:42:27.320 --> 00:42:31.000
wanting to be a pregnancy, well right, all those things

849
00:42:31.280 --> 00:42:34.880
like a pregnancy and so and and not to get

850
00:42:34.880 --> 00:42:38.519
too political about this too, but man, you get pregnant

851
00:42:38.519 --> 00:42:41.880
in the state of Texas. Oh kind of fucked. Yeah.

852
00:42:41.960 --> 00:42:44.840
So so yeah, birth control is okay? That that would

853
00:42:44.880 --> 00:42:45.639
be my other.

854
00:42:46.960 --> 00:42:47.800
Don't rape.

855
00:42:48.400 --> 00:42:51.679
Yeah, once you get the consent, put on the RAND code.

856
00:42:52.360 --> 00:42:55.079
That's the thing, and be okay with that, be prepared

857
00:42:55.119 --> 00:42:57.159
for that, be okay with that. Don't be one of

858
00:42:57.159 --> 00:42:58.920
those dudes. It's like, oh, but it feels so much

859
00:42:58.960 --> 00:43:01.320
better when we all know that, we all get it.

860
00:43:01.480 --> 00:43:03.760
But you know what's the best. The best is not

861
00:43:03.920 --> 00:43:07.000
ruining your life because your your significant other is giving

862
00:43:07.039 --> 00:43:11.480
birth to a child. That's those are that's two lives

863
00:43:10.320 --> 00:43:13.280
as probably three. I'm gonna go out and a limb

864
00:43:13.280 --> 00:43:16.440
and say, that's three lives you're saving talking about the

865
00:43:16.559 --> 00:43:20.480
child too, by just choosing to put the on.

866
00:43:21.480 --> 00:43:24.599
And I would multiply that by whatever the parents are

867
00:43:24.719 --> 00:43:27.760
involved in that situation. So let's say you're the Russian

868
00:43:27.840 --> 00:43:30.880
kid who doesn't have parents, so we'll erase those, but

869
00:43:31.800 --> 00:43:34.000
the girl might have a mom and a dad, so

870
00:43:34.039 --> 00:43:35.880
there's two more lives. You haven't fucked right.

871
00:43:35.880 --> 00:43:38.400
And look and the team Kate softball team, they need

872
00:43:38.400 --> 00:43:42.199
her to pitch, they need take all those lives and

873
00:43:42.239 --> 00:43:44.480
fuck with that too. Because you didn't put a condom

874
00:43:44.480 --> 00:43:47.320
on because oh, just not feel as good. Stop it,

875
00:43:47.679 --> 00:43:54.239
grow up, put a rubber on, don't rape, consent. Those

876
00:43:54.280 --> 00:43:56.119
are the three things this kid needs to.

877
00:43:56.039 --> 00:44:00.000
Know as a as a as a you know, a girl, dad,

878
00:44:00.440 --> 00:44:02.719
I'm like, don't do it at all, but sure, I'm

879
00:44:02.760 --> 00:44:05.199
also a realist. I'm also a realist, and I know,

880
00:44:05.559 --> 00:44:09.199
I know that kids at this age will have sex.

881
00:44:08.239 --> 00:44:11.639
All let's get real for just a real quick second. Here,

882
00:44:11.840 --> 00:44:14.440
have you had this happen to you yet? Because this

883
00:44:14.599 --> 00:44:16.679
just happened to me a couple of weeks ago. Oh shit,

884
00:44:16.760 --> 00:44:22.679
here we go where Charlie was throwing up nauseous. It

885
00:44:22.760 --> 00:44:25.400
turns out it was just the stomach flu. But did

886
00:44:25.440 --> 00:44:27.559
I think about asking my wife?

887
00:44:28.239 --> 00:44:31.760
She she could that be?

888
00:44:31.760 --> 00:44:34.400
Because I don't know what's happened? Is she not? What's

889
00:44:34.440 --> 00:44:37.599
going on? Because I'm that's my concern right at this point,

890
00:44:37.880 --> 00:44:40.039
She's it's her senior year. I don't want her to

891
00:44:40.400 --> 00:44:42.000
I don't want that to happen. I don't want that

892
00:44:42.000 --> 00:44:43.960
to happen to her senior year, freshman year of college.

893
00:44:44.000 --> 00:44:45.679
I don't need, no, she doesn't need any of that

894
00:44:45.719 --> 00:44:46.519
to happen right now.

895
00:44:46.760 --> 00:44:49.480
Look, and you and I are both boys, And I

896
00:44:49.480 --> 00:44:51.800
don't know how your high school was, your high school

897
00:44:51.840 --> 00:44:56.360
experience was, but mine was definitely there was some sexual

898
00:44:56.400 --> 00:45:00.719
activity that took place. Oh, yeah, oh yeah, Okay, you're

899
00:45:00.760 --> 00:45:01.800
just stretching that out there.

900
00:45:01.960 --> 00:45:03.280
Say look, for those you didn't see on the video,

901
00:45:03.280 --> 00:45:06.280
I'm vehemently agreeing with mister dad here, and.

902
00:45:06.239 --> 00:45:09.519
So I'm just saying that that we can only assume

903
00:45:09.559 --> 00:45:11.639
in this day and age, especially with the Internet, that

904
00:45:11.639 --> 00:45:15.000
that shit happens even more than it did when these

905
00:45:15.039 --> 00:45:19.039
old white haired dudes. So I'm a realist. I know

906
00:45:19.119 --> 00:45:21.159
that shit happens, and I tell my kids that all

907
00:45:21.199 --> 00:45:23.559
the time, right, I say, hey, look, I know that

908
00:45:23.719 --> 00:45:26.039
this is going to happen in some way, shape or form.

909
00:45:26.519 --> 00:45:28.840
And as awkward as it is to hear from your

910
00:45:28.960 --> 00:45:32.639
dad talking to a girl to say these things, this

911
00:45:32.719 --> 00:45:35.480
is going to happen, we know it will. So don't

912
00:45:35.480 --> 00:45:37.679
get pregnant, right, so you know, talk to mom and

913
00:45:37.719 --> 00:45:39.159
dad about it, those kinds of things.

914
00:45:39.440 --> 00:45:42.280
Understand it a theorically out there, like it's it's just

915
00:45:42.360 --> 00:45:44.679
kind of all, well, somebody might get is pregnant out there.

916
00:45:44.679 --> 00:45:46.800
We just take steps to make sure it's not you.

917
00:45:46.920 --> 00:45:47.599
That's all I'm saying.

918
00:45:47.679 --> 00:45:51.159
Yeah, that's that is one hundred percent, hundred percent. That's

919
00:45:51.239 --> 00:45:55.039
the top to bottom left right. That is absolutely one great,

920
00:45:55.360 --> 00:45:59.119
great advice for a kid, who's a Russian who's obviously,

921
00:45:59.280 --> 00:46:01.920
you know, not in this country illegally, legally.

922
00:46:02.239 --> 00:46:04.840
Probably we get our applause from the judges on the

923
00:46:04.920 --> 00:46:09.519
don't and wear a condom? You're welcome fourteen year old boy.

924
00:46:09.679 --> 00:46:12.880
You imagine that's all he gets, man, that's all he gets,

925
00:46:13.039 --> 00:46:13.320
is that?

926
00:46:14.960 --> 00:46:17.039
Well, I mean he's on Reddit. Maybe you should just

927
00:46:17.119 --> 00:46:18.960
chime in there, don't rape wear a condom?

928
00:46:19.079 --> 00:46:21.519
Yeah, I mean I could very well could.

929
00:46:21.360 --> 00:46:22.960
See what happens. What I'd love to see is what

930
00:46:23.000 --> 00:46:25.320
the other redditors are going to say to your response

931
00:46:25.400 --> 00:46:25.679
to that.

932
00:46:25.880 --> 00:46:26.880
You know, that's a very good point.

933
00:46:26.880 --> 00:46:30.079
I'm sure they're all like Kelly, Yeah, he's right, absolutely.

934
00:46:29.599 --> 00:46:31.320
Just to find out, it might be worth while adding

935
00:46:31.320 --> 00:46:33.920
that into there. So but that's again, feel free anytime.

936
00:46:34.119 --> 00:46:35.480
It doesn't have to be a fourteen year old kid

937
00:46:35.480 --> 00:46:38.599
looking for sex talk, but any parental advice. We're here

938
00:46:38.639 --> 00:46:40.480
for you at the Dad's Home podcast. And you know,

939
00:46:40.679 --> 00:46:43.079
if you're listening with your kids, which.

940
00:46:43.760 --> 00:46:46.960
You should be, Wow, I know, wow, you have an

941
00:46:46.960 --> 00:46:48.679
open type of family relationship.

942
00:46:48.679 --> 00:46:51.559
But maybe look, if you walk away learning something and

943
00:46:51.599 --> 00:46:54.519
they walk away learning something, here, let it be don't

944
00:46:54.880 --> 00:46:55.679
and wear a condom?

945
00:46:57.719 --> 00:46:59.119
After this whole episode.

946
00:46:59.639 --> 00:47:02.079
All right, Chad, let's quickly go to the tape. Bring

947
00:47:02.119 --> 00:47:07.400
the absurd year holds. Let's go, let's go, and let's

948
00:47:07.440 --> 00:47:14.039
go to I can't do it. We'll do it live obviously.

949
00:47:15.360 --> 00:47:16.000
Loaded in there.

950
00:47:16.400 --> 00:47:18.159
We'll do it a lot.

951
00:47:18.280 --> 00:47:21.079
We apologize, we don't have that clip from the radio station.

952
00:47:21.639 --> 00:47:23.840
Do it live. I can all write it, and we'll

953
00:47:23.840 --> 00:47:29.480
do it a lot. And thank you. It sucks the tape.

954
00:47:29.519 --> 00:47:32.519
Don't lie the tape. Don't lie, mister Chad. We've got

955
00:47:32.559 --> 00:47:36.360
tape to prove it here. Now, I'm not saying that

956
00:47:36.440 --> 00:47:39.400
this is the only reason why you should rethink having

957
00:47:39.440 --> 00:47:42.960
that affair. Like, let's say, Thursday is Thanksgiving, right, we

958
00:47:43.079 --> 00:47:45.760
just had that happen. It's just Wednesday night, the biggest

959
00:47:45.760 --> 00:47:47.519
bar night of the year for anybody and.

960
00:47:47.519 --> 00:47:51.000
Everybody, mostly college kids. But you know that's why I go,

961
00:47:51.079 --> 00:47:55.159
because sure those college girls like old dudes like me.

962
00:47:55.400 --> 00:47:58.039
They love the dad bought. The ladies love the dad bod.

963
00:47:58.159 --> 00:47:58.800
I don't even think that.

964
00:48:00.280 --> 00:48:02.360
I have too. I don't know it's in the dirty clothes,

965
00:48:02.400 --> 00:48:04.320
but I have that. You know. Yeah, he's loved to

966
00:48:04.400 --> 00:48:05.079
dad boy.

967
00:48:04.960 --> 00:48:06.320
Which I don't think has been a thing for the

968
00:48:06.360 --> 00:48:08.320
past two years. Frankly, I gotta be honest with you.

969
00:48:08.320 --> 00:48:10.000
I think we kind of died off two years ago.

970
00:48:10.039 --> 00:48:12.320
But that meant I am I'm a daily eight a

971
00:48:12.320 --> 00:48:12.880
dollar short.

972
00:48:12.920 --> 00:48:16.559
Then this is what one woman did when she found

973
00:48:16.599 --> 00:48:19.880
out that her husband was having an affair for the

974
00:48:19.920 --> 00:48:23.400
better part of two years. Uh and and this is

975
00:48:23.400 --> 00:48:24.239
how she had ter.

976
00:48:27.519 --> 00:48:30.760
Look next year. Turn around for your fans, he had

977
00:48:30.800 --> 00:48:34.400
a two year affair while I had his second baby.

978
00:48:34.719 --> 00:48:37.119
Now it sounds a little weird because you're not you're

979
00:48:37.119 --> 00:48:40.079
not watching this on the video is not an airport. No,

980
00:48:40.159 --> 00:48:42.480
it's at a mall. It's at a shopping mall. Just

981
00:48:42.519 --> 00:48:46.639
imagine your local favorite shopping mall, and like an old

982
00:48:46.800 --> 00:48:50.239
school Popeye cartoons, and you're wearing the sandwich board saying

983
00:48:50.639 --> 00:48:53.719
I had an affair for two years, asked me to

984
00:48:53.800 --> 00:48:56.679
tell you about it, And you're walking through the mall

985
00:48:56.760 --> 00:48:59.079
with a sandwich board. Either side of the sandwich board

986
00:48:59.159 --> 00:49:02.440
says basically this same thing. You're there with your wife

987
00:49:03.480 --> 00:49:06.519
and she's got the baby in the stroller as you're

988
00:49:06.559 --> 00:49:10.320
walking through the mall, and she's not. It's not just

989
00:49:10.360 --> 00:49:12.400
that you see the guy with a sandwich boar because

990
00:49:12.400 --> 00:49:16.639
that's enough. She's pointing it out to everybody as you

991
00:49:16.679 --> 00:49:19.480
walk through the mall that you had an affair. That

992
00:49:19.599 --> 00:49:22.480
she again highlights exactly what was what she was doing

993
00:49:22.519 --> 00:49:23.280
while you were doing this.

994
00:49:24.559 --> 00:49:27.159
He had a two your affair, while I had his

995
00:49:27.599 --> 00:49:31.239
second baby. We intentionally had a second baby, and he's

996
00:49:31.239 --> 00:49:32.000
having an affair.

997
00:49:31.840 --> 00:49:37.920
The whole time. So wow, I just want to say that,

998
00:49:38.000 --> 00:49:41.840
you know, there was a time, Chad, in perhaps everybody's

999
00:49:41.920 --> 00:49:45.519
younger days, where maybe if you were caught having an affair,

1000
00:49:45.559 --> 00:49:47.920
you had to apologize to that individually, get to go

1001
00:49:47.960 --> 00:49:51.000
through couple's therapy, maybe you had to apologize to friends,

1002
00:49:51.000 --> 00:49:54.400
and maybe there was a divorce process or separation. Now

1003
00:49:54.840 --> 00:49:58.639
with social media, fuck Matt, you are making a show,

1004
00:49:59.360 --> 00:50:03.039
a show going to get hits when you have a life,

1005
00:50:03.079 --> 00:50:05.800
it was like, how do I make this guy feel

1006
00:50:05.840 --> 00:50:08.440
the worst for doing this and get a ton of

1007
00:50:08.519 --> 00:50:12.280
hits and likes from it? Boom, You've got a camera

1008
00:50:12.320 --> 00:50:15.079
and like seven different outlets to do this with and

1009
00:50:15.159 --> 00:50:17.920
it will go viral as in this case. Look at

1010
00:50:17.960 --> 00:50:20.320
this guy's face once again, Look at him walk there.

1011
00:50:23.800 --> 00:50:26.280
He's going like he's going to He says, to do

1012
00:50:26.320 --> 00:50:28.880
you have to do that, and she stopped in the

1013
00:50:28.960 --> 00:50:36.480
cart claps her hands. It's like, cheata there. This guy

1014
00:50:36.639 --> 00:50:41.079
cheated for you fans. Look at his face for your fans.

1015
00:50:41.119 --> 00:50:42.159
Look at his face.

1016
00:50:43.159 --> 00:50:44.960
Oh my god, holy shit.

1017
00:50:45.119 --> 00:50:48.440
Now, if that face and the sandwich board doesn't make

1018
00:50:48.519 --> 00:50:52.719
you rethink having the affair, I don't know what will

1019
00:50:54.119 --> 00:50:57.039
forget the hurt that she obviously felt and the concern

1020
00:50:57.079 --> 00:50:59.719
about whether or not this relationship will have any trust

1021
00:50:59.760 --> 00:51:02.920
in it down the road, because I'm gonna guess that's

1022
00:51:02.920 --> 00:51:05.159
pretty indicative of not a lot of trust. And the

1023
00:51:05.320 --> 00:51:09.880
infant is right there watching dad.

1024
00:51:09.880 --> 00:51:12.280
Here's what I'm concerned about now that you mentioned that

1025
00:51:12.519 --> 00:51:14.639
where's the other kid with grandma?

1026
00:51:14.840 --> 00:51:16.920
Or perhaps be said by the nanny that he had

1027
00:51:16.960 --> 00:51:20.559
the affair with I don't know the old pair he

1028
00:51:20.679 --> 00:51:25.360
was fucking. I'm not sure she put an end of

1029
00:51:25.360 --> 00:51:27.159
the affair, but not to the o pair working there,

1030
00:51:27.199 --> 00:51:29.199
because it's so tough to find an a pair these days,

1031
00:51:29.400 --> 00:51:32.159
mister Chad. So just think about that when you guys

1032
00:51:32.199 --> 00:51:35.360
are thinking about that affair possibility on that drunken night

1033
00:51:35.440 --> 00:51:40.559
before U before. As we have athlete daughters, athlete children,

1034
00:51:40.800 --> 00:51:43.320
and we have seen some crazier things that have happened

1035
00:51:43.360 --> 00:51:47.519
at the ballpark when it comes to parents, when it fans,

1036
00:51:47.559 --> 00:51:52.159
when it comes to stories umpires, uh and and and

1037
00:51:52.159 --> 00:51:53.920
and some of the rules that have gone on at

1038
00:51:53.920 --> 00:51:57.800
these ballparks for travel games and the like. Here's one

1039
00:51:57.840 --> 00:52:03.480
where you see arrest event a school age wrestling event,

1040
00:52:03.559 --> 00:52:05.960
and apparently one of the parents is not happy with

1041
00:52:06.000 --> 00:52:10.400
the way not his son is wrestling or not wrestling

1042
00:52:10.440 --> 00:52:13.679
as the case maybe, but more about the referee involved.

1043
00:52:16.760 --> 00:52:18.760
You see a little wrestling going on there at the school.

1044
00:52:18.800 --> 00:52:24.760
Somebody's getting demolished by a did with long hairs. Referee

1045
00:52:24.800 --> 00:52:35.679
calling something goes over and out of nowhere, Dad comes in,

1046
00:52:36.519 --> 00:52:42.719
shoves the referee off the kids. He's yelling about something

1047
00:52:42.760 --> 00:52:45.440
that the referee didn't do. The wife is also see this.

1048
00:52:45.519 --> 00:52:47.719
You can see the wife right here. She starts yelling

1049
00:52:47.800 --> 00:52:51.360
at the referee. Also as the rest trying to get away,

1050
00:52:52.639 --> 00:53:00.760
he's kicking them out of the the gymnasium. The refs

1051
00:53:00.800 --> 00:53:03.000
are saying I'll have you arrested, which is rightfully so

1052
00:53:03.159 --> 00:53:05.280
that they have every right to say that. And that's

1053
00:53:05.320 --> 00:53:08.719
an assocuation, that's an assault on the wrestling mat. You

1054
00:53:08.800 --> 00:53:11.079
see the dad take off and run across the mat

1055
00:53:11.159 --> 00:53:14.360
to tackle world, to take down. He's a big dude.

1056
00:53:14.360 --> 00:53:16.480
The dad is to take down the referee.

1057
00:53:16.480 --> 00:53:19.599
He's definitely, he's definitely the referee in him. Are not

1058
00:53:19.639 --> 00:53:23.480
in the same weight class, No, for sure. God, well

1059
00:53:23.519 --> 00:53:24.559
I don't know that referee.

1060
00:53:24.639 --> 00:53:27.719
Maybe again, I get it. You're pissed off. I get it.

1061
00:53:27.760 --> 00:53:29.920
Your kid was getting crushed by what seemingly was a

1062
00:53:29.960 --> 00:53:32.599
littler kid with longer hair. I get that. That's a

1063
00:53:32.639 --> 00:53:35.639
girl or a girl as the case. Maybe I get you.

1064
00:53:35.719 --> 00:53:38.280
There are awesome wrestlers, by the way, I'm just saying, like, yeah.

1065
00:53:38.119 --> 00:53:42.199
They are. I've seen you crush a dude in wrestling.

1066
00:53:42.239 --> 00:53:48.679
It happens a lot. But again, stay in your fucking seat.

1067
00:53:49.840 --> 00:53:53.400
This is uh so for since we'll bring this full

1068
00:53:53.440 --> 00:53:55.639
circle here, you know, since we were talking about my

1069
00:53:55.719 --> 00:53:59.800
kid being recruited. Uh this right here, this video is

1070
00:54:00.519 --> 00:54:02.840
the one oh one on how not to get your

1071
00:54:02.920 --> 00:54:06.440
kid recruited. Yeah, the minute that everybody who your kid

1072
00:54:06.679 --> 00:54:09.480
may like, some college that may be interested in your kid,

1073
00:54:09.880 --> 00:54:13.000
sees this video and sees you, the parent, acting like this,

1074
00:54:13.559 --> 00:54:16.920
your kid's done forget it. No matter how good they are, right,

1075
00:54:16.960 --> 00:54:20.960
could be the best most world class Olympic wrestler on

1076
00:54:21.079 --> 00:54:23.599
the planet. Right, you act like this as a parent.

1077
00:54:24.239 --> 00:54:25.880
Game over, folks, and.

1078
00:54:25.800 --> 00:54:28.719
Seriously, no offense. I'll say this as you have done

1079
00:54:28.760 --> 00:54:31.480
it before. I'm a coach for softball for both of

1080
00:54:31.519 --> 00:54:34.039
my daughter's teams. I see that. What the fuck are

1081
00:54:34.039 --> 00:54:37.320
you teaching your kid now? You're so if you're pissed

1082
00:54:37.360 --> 00:54:40.760
because your kid wasn't wrestling well or was getting crushed

1083
00:54:40.760 --> 00:54:44.079
by the competition, you don't charge out and take down

1084
00:54:44.159 --> 00:54:47.840
the referee for a lack of ability on your son's part.

1085
00:54:48.840 --> 00:54:51.599
Fuck you, your kid? What are you teaching your kid now? Now?

1086
00:54:51.679 --> 00:54:53.519
Your kid go by the way, standing in the background,

1087
00:54:53.519 --> 00:54:54.800
going dad, please don't do this. Please?

1088
00:54:54.800 --> 00:54:56.400
Oh yeah, dad, Dad, Stop.

1089
00:54:57.039 --> 00:54:59.039
That poor kid is going to have to live with

1090
00:54:59.039 --> 00:55:00.880
that now. You don't think that he gets around an

1091
00:55:01.039 --> 00:55:04.440
entire school district. Oh, that gets around a school district.

1092
00:55:04.760 --> 00:55:07.599
That's gonna be that kid's not going to wrestle again. Period.

1093
00:55:07.679 --> 00:55:08.960
No, No, I wouldn't.

1094
00:55:09.199 --> 00:55:12.800
No, I mean you can't.

1095
00:55:12.920 --> 00:55:16.760
This is yeah there and there are thousands and thousands

1096
00:55:16.840 --> 00:55:19.079
of examples of this. This is like a whole episode

1097
00:55:19.119 --> 00:55:20.400
we can talk about about parenting.

1098
00:55:20.719 --> 00:55:23.480
We will, I'm sure we will. We'll do it again.

1099
00:55:23.840 --> 00:55:26.440
But this is uh yeah, this is the kind of

1100
00:55:26.480 --> 00:55:28.639
stuff that drives me nuts. I see this at the

1101
00:55:28.639 --> 00:55:30.199
ballpark all the time.

1102
00:55:30.280 --> 00:55:32.599
If you're listening to the podcast now, you can see

1103
00:55:32.599 --> 00:55:34.679
this at a Real guy radio dot com. Also a

1104
00:55:34.760 --> 00:55:36.679
YouTube on the Dad's Home podcast. You can check it

1105
00:55:36.679 --> 00:55:38.480
out there. And lastly, chat, I think we need to

1106
00:55:38.519 --> 00:55:40.920
do more when it comes to teav do not our

1107
00:55:41.079 --> 00:55:46.159
kids about finances now, specifically I suck at finances. My

1108
00:55:46.239 --> 00:55:48.599
wife sucks at finances. It's one of those things that

1109
00:55:48.599 --> 00:55:51.360
we know about each other one hundred percent, and we

1110
00:55:51.480 --> 00:55:53.559
know that we are taking this and we're putting it

1111
00:55:53.639 --> 00:55:56.079
onto our kids as they're My senior age daughter's about

1112
00:55:56.079 --> 00:55:59.239
ready to hit freshmen in college. So I've found I'm

1113
00:55:59.280 --> 00:56:02.079
trying to find. I found that I'm interested in getting

1114
00:56:02.079 --> 00:56:04.719
my daughter into some sort of home financing class on

1115
00:56:04.760 --> 00:56:06.960
her own that she can just you know, away from school,

1116
00:56:06.960 --> 00:56:09.360
something she can do at night, whatever, some sort of

1117
00:56:09.360 --> 00:56:12.400
a class that legitimately teaches her how to handle her finances.

1118
00:56:12.639 --> 00:56:16.280
Because this little kid has fucked this up big time

1119
00:56:16.320 --> 00:56:18.039
for mom, which I think is all mom's fault. But

1120
00:56:18.079 --> 00:56:20.159
let's listen to what mom has to say here about

1121
00:56:20.199 --> 00:56:23.119
what this kid has done. You do not get to

1122
00:56:23.239 --> 00:56:28.400
max out my debit cards? Okay, and Amelia.

1123
00:56:27.440 --> 00:56:35.239
Two thousand, five hundred dollars, you literally max out my car.

1124
00:56:35.760 --> 00:56:39.159
Well, look, so she's she's maxed out mom's credit card.

1125
00:56:39.760 --> 00:56:42.039
And what this kid does? Who just rolled her eyes

1126
00:56:42.039 --> 00:56:43.239
at her mind? And how old do you think this kids?

1127
00:56:43.320 --> 00:56:44.880
Kids got to be like ten years old? Maybe eleven

1128
00:56:44.920 --> 00:56:45.320
years old?

1129
00:56:45.320 --> 00:56:45.480
Top?

1130
00:56:45.639 --> 00:56:50.039
Yeah, she stuns over to get to the pile of

1131
00:56:50.079 --> 00:56:52.559
stuff that's on the couch to show mom what she

1132
00:56:52.639 --> 00:56:54.480
bought with the twenty five hundred dollars at the Crocks.

1133
00:56:54.679 --> 00:56:56.679
She's gonna bust out the nikes here in a minute.

1134
00:56:56.800 --> 00:56:58.519
Those are acute, Lisa Frank cracks.

1135
00:56:58.559 --> 00:57:04.679
But seriously, you needed three pairs of shoes, Amelia dah.

1136
00:57:04.559 --> 00:57:09.079
That's right there, bus max out my damnit.

1137
00:57:09.159 --> 00:57:12.199
You shouldn't be using my card. Okay, So I agree

1138
00:57:12.239 --> 00:57:14.880
with that, mom, But why is she using your car?

1139
00:57:15.280 --> 00:57:16.599
How did she get it in the first place?

1140
00:57:16.639 --> 00:57:18.440
How's she doing that? Because I don't know about you,

1141
00:57:18.440 --> 00:57:21.559
but it looks like she's about to. I know you did,

1142
00:57:22.039 --> 00:57:23.159
I know you did.

1143
00:57:23.360 --> 00:57:29.039
American Eagle jeans, shoes, Mark Jacobs sunglasses.

1144
00:57:29.679 --> 00:57:35.039
You are seven, You should to use dude seven. First

1145
00:57:35.039 --> 00:57:39.519
of all, she looks like she's a teenager. Uh seven seven?

1146
00:57:40.199 --> 00:57:43.440
What are we doing here? Who's doing that? Who's giving

1147
00:57:43.480 --> 00:57:47.079
their kid at age seven full access? Because I'm guessing

1148
00:57:47.159 --> 00:57:49.119
and I don't know. Maybe she did order it all online,

1149
00:57:49.159 --> 00:57:51.639
but I saw shopping bags there. So if even if

1150
00:57:51.639 --> 00:57:54.360
you were like, go ahead into my Amazon, shouldn't you

1151
00:57:54.400 --> 00:57:55.920
be checking? Like, if you go ahead, put in the

1152
00:57:55.960 --> 00:57:57.880
card on Amazon, I'll check it and get it all

1153
00:57:57.920 --> 00:58:00.360
sent off. And Paige, so just let me see what

1154
00:58:00.360 --> 00:58:02.159
you've got in there and make some decisions on it.

1155
00:58:02.280 --> 00:58:04.079
I'll let you know if I think that's too much,

1156
00:58:04.400 --> 00:58:06.320
not up your alley, not the right size, whatever it

1157
00:58:06.360 --> 00:58:08.840
might be. You're just giving your seven year old free

1158
00:58:08.880 --> 00:58:12.360
fucking rain as to purchasing anything anywhere.

1159
00:58:14.719 --> 00:58:16.719
This is one of these times where I think one

1160
00:58:16.719 --> 00:58:19.599
of our sponsors could be someone like green Light, which

1161
00:58:19.639 --> 00:58:23.159
is a company that is basically a debit card for

1162
00:58:23.199 --> 00:58:26.119
your kids where you get to control how much they spend. Yes,

1163
00:58:26.320 --> 00:58:28.480
you can watch, which is what we use in our house.

1164
00:58:28.599 --> 00:58:30.679
You have control. You can shut that card down at

1165
00:58:30.679 --> 00:58:32.039
a moment's notice if you need to.

1166
00:58:32.679 --> 00:58:34.519
Or you know, you can take all the money out

1167
00:58:34.519 --> 00:58:36.079
of their accounts. So when they go to try to

1168
00:58:36.119 --> 00:58:39.320
buy one hundred and fifty dollars shoes, sorry.

1169
00:58:39.000 --> 00:58:44.039
Decline right right a debit card, but this, look at this.

1170
00:58:44.239 --> 00:58:46.960
That's why I just use it for all this stuff.

1171
00:58:47.440 --> 00:58:49.280
You should you know what, You're not gonna be able

1172
00:58:49.280 --> 00:58:52.840
to have your iPhone anymore because that that is why

1173
00:58:53.079 --> 00:58:58.079
we're in this position. You better no, I'll just break it.

1174
00:58:58.320 --> 00:59:00.440
Here's how I'm gonna get back at you, mom foring

1175
00:59:00.480 --> 00:59:03.519
out your credit card. I'm gonna take my thousand dollars

1176
00:59:03.559 --> 00:59:05.920
iPhone and break it. What are you gonna do about it? Bitch?

1177
00:59:06.039 --> 00:59:08.719
What do you got going on there? What are you

1178
00:59:08.760 --> 00:59:09.599
gonna do? Then?

1179
00:59:10.920 --> 00:59:11.239
Oh?

1180
00:59:11.320 --> 00:59:12.119
Man? Is how?

1181
00:59:12.239 --> 00:59:15.159
This is how America is gonna be great again? Right here? Folks?

1182
00:59:16.000 --> 00:59:18.559
Oh Jesus, seriously, this is I mean, how do we

1183
00:59:18.719 --> 00:59:21.280
So here's my question on this, Like I watched stuff

1184
00:59:21.440 --> 00:59:25.079
like this online and and I'm like, okay, entertaining, But.

1185
00:59:25.119 --> 00:59:26.519
How much of this is staged?

1186
00:59:26.719 --> 00:59:26.880
I know?

1187
00:59:26.960 --> 00:59:29.760
How much of this is? Like it's like I want

1188
00:59:29.760 --> 00:59:31.320
to get clicks, right, I want to get people to

1189
00:59:31.320 --> 00:59:33.199
pay attention to me, So I'm gonna pull shit like this.

1190
00:59:33.719 --> 00:59:35.320
How much of it is that? And how much of

1191
00:59:35.360 --> 00:59:36.840
this is actually really happening.

1192
00:59:36.920 --> 00:59:39.960
It's a good rible and I got the vibe initially

1193
00:59:40.000 --> 00:59:41.920
that maybe it seems a little fit, but the seven

1194
00:59:41.960 --> 00:59:45.639
year old is either that good an actress, right, or

1195
00:59:45.719 --> 00:59:48.639
it's or or or it's all real because she really

1196
00:59:48.719 --> 00:59:51.119
the reactions to it, the eye rolling, all of that

1197
00:59:51.159 --> 00:59:53.719
stuff leads me to maybe mom knew exactly what she

1198
00:59:53.840 --> 00:59:56.119
was doing by setting this up in video recording it

1199
00:59:56.199 --> 00:59:59.679
for that purpose. But Jesus, that kid sold it like

1200
01:00:00.360 --> 01:00:02.320
and made me want to punch her in the throat.

1201
01:00:02.800 --> 01:00:07.880
She is just, Oh my god, have I got.

1202
01:00:07.880 --> 01:00:10.199
Have I got an audition?

1203
01:00:10.320 --> 01:00:12.679
Really, you're gonna break it. You're gonna do what?

1204
01:00:15.360 --> 01:00:15.960
Look I am.

1205
01:00:16.039 --> 01:00:19.039
I am not at all in favor of kids getting

1206
01:00:19.159 --> 01:00:22.000
hit or any sort of spanking, but goddamn, that girl

1207
01:00:22.079 --> 01:00:22.440
needs it.

1208
01:00:24.239 --> 01:00:26.800
This is could be our first entry into the twenty

1209
01:00:26.840 --> 01:00:28.599
twenty five Worst Parents.

1210
01:00:28.280 --> 01:00:31.000
I think right there, Look we have too because technically

1211
01:00:31.079 --> 01:00:34.920
we've got the dude who the charges, yeah, who's charging

1212
01:00:34.960 --> 01:00:37.639
after the referee and knocks a referee down, And then

1213
01:00:37.679 --> 01:00:44.280
we've got this wonderful woman. You better not. God, how

1214
01:00:44.360 --> 01:00:48.360
much do I want that little kid that's like shot the.

1215
01:00:50.480 --> 01:00:50.880
Damn it?

1216
01:00:51.039 --> 01:00:51.639
God, that's it.

1217
01:00:51.880 --> 01:00:52.320
Damn it.

1218
01:00:52.480 --> 01:00:55.159
Well. Look that is the first welcome back edition of

1219
01:00:55.199 --> 01:00:58.679
this home podcast. Thank you very much for being here.

1220
01:00:58.960 --> 01:01:01.000
We appreciate it. We're gonn have more of these to come,

1221
01:01:01.039 --> 01:01:03.599
mister Chad. And and by the way, I like the

1222
01:01:03.599 --> 01:01:05.840
sponsorship I did for Greenland or anybody else. And if

1223
01:01:05.880 --> 01:01:08.239
you got classes that your kid took to help them

1224
01:01:08.280 --> 01:01:11.159
personally finance, get themselves ready and not over and charge

1225
01:01:11.199 --> 01:01:13.480
their cards, let us know at the Dad's Home Podcast.

1226
01:01:13.880 --> 01:01:14.760
Until next time.

1227
01:01:15.239 --> 01:01:22.440
See uh, sweet pea, keep of myself. I'm know sometimes

1228
01:01:22.559 --> 01:01:30.599
I'm out of concho yoty. Only reason keep on coming, yo,

1229
01:01:31.440 --> 01:01:33.920
reason I keep all coming.

1230
01:01:34.119 --> 01:01:38.960
Yeah, Yo, keep coming.